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Break-ups suck, but you will survive!

We all have been through it, breaking up with someone you thought would be in you life forever. That gut wrenching feeling of walking away from someone who doesn’t serve your soul the way they should. It’s not fun, but the beautiful thing about break ups, is you learn so much about yourself in the process. We put together this list to help ease the pain and get you back to that glowing, happy woman you were born to be!

-Friends/Family: Without a doubt life would be nothing without friends and family. They make you laugh, they tell you things you don’t want to hear, but you need to hear it anyways. They will be the ones to lift you when you’re down and that hug you need when the heart is aching just too much. Allow them to be that cushion in that time of need. They will allow you more growth than anything.

-Music: That’s a give in. Blast Lana Del Rey and cry your eyes out. It’s okay to be sad. Allow yourself to feel the sorrow and hurt. Emotions aren’t meant to not be felt. Healing can be hard, but being in your emotions is the best release. Some of my favorite break up music includes Bob Moses, Alabama Shakes, Above & Beyond ,The XX, London Grammar and Bon Iver.

-Find a New Hobby: The most creative people have usually endured the worst of heartbreak – in return they create some of the most beautiful things. Whether is taking a new class, getting outside or simply getting a journal to write in, creativity stems from dark days. Not to mention, new hobbies allows you to surround yourself with new ideas, from new people. You will be surprised at the perspective you gain from being in new places.

-Alone Time: Tuning into yourself can help you understand the ache you’re feeling. During my time of hurt I went out in nature by myself, listened to how I really felt and allowed it. Once you “watch” how you are feeling without judgement, that’s when a breakthrough happens. Angela Burningham said it best:

“To isolate, to ache, and to find myself love. To feel everything and to work through it. To understand and grow mentally, to change my thoughts, and re-evaluate my perception of what I felt I deserved and what made ME happy. I decided not to fill my time and space with temporary solutions or “distractions” because at the end of the day, that’s all the were and the hurt was still there. My biggest growth came from my biggest pain and the peace I have now was worth everything I lost”

-Yoga & Meditation: I learned with any break-up or falling out, being able to forgive is the first step to moving forward. To forgive doesn’t mean you have to accept ones actions towards you, but simply allowing them to not consume your thoughts. I find when I am on my mat, I can allow forgiveness to enter my space. An hour of escaping the replayed conversations and scenarios allowed me so much relief to replace bitterness and allow forgiveness in my heart. Mindful and slow restorative poses allow you to tune in and see how you emotions are making you feel and simply watch without judgement.

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Staying Present – Living Life Purposefully

“The past and future are in the mind only – I am now” – Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj

Living consciously is something everyone strives to do. With the new age movement of meditation, yoga, and eastern medicine. Most are aware of what it means to live life presently, although, most don’t actually do it. Being lost in past memories, or the excitement of the future can plague us of the very moment we actually have control over. The Present. While it’s easier said than done, there are some simple steps you can take to become more mindful and essentially ease stress of day to day life.

Meditation can seem intimidating. Being completely consumed in thoughts is a daily practice for most and turning off the ‘Monkey Mind’ is an extremely difficult thing to do. Some people think shutting off the mind does a disservice. The beautiful thing about meditation is, it’s not asking you to shut off your mind, rather observe it and let the thoughts come like waves on a shore. There are many studies that meditation reduces pain, insomnia, PMS and increases relaxation, and focus for students.

There are different types of meditation that can be fun, and you can do them just about anywhere!

-Breathing techniques: Breathing techniques are great for quick meditations at anytime of the day. When you focus on your breath, you put yourself in the present moment. When you start focusing on breathing and the sensations throughout your body you quickly learn that it’s easier to let the thoughts melt away. Take a few deep breaths and start to bring your awareness to everything around you such as sound and scents, reverse the process and bring your awareness back to your breath. Doing this for 10 minutes a day can definitely change your life.

-Guided Meditations: Guided meditations are usually with someone specifically trained in healing’s and meditations. You can find thousands of resources online and apps that will allow you to focus on a certain topic of mediation such as love, anxiety, relationships and more. Some of my favorite apps include Aura & Headspace.

-Mantras: probably my favorite type of meditation are mantras. You usually meditate with a 108 beaded mala that you begin moving through your thumb and middle finger. You can choose any mantra that fits well to you. You can chant a mantra in either the sacred language of Sanskirt or English but do whatever you’re comfortable with. Choosing your mala is your first step. Choose something that calls to you. There are plenty of online stores or local stores such as Dancing Crane you can shop from. Begin your meditation by starting on the left side of the mala and continue to repeat your mantra til you get through all 108 beads, instead of crossing the big bead, also known as the guru bead, at the end near the tassel turn back around and complete the mantra in opposite direction. You can do any mantra from “I am beautiful” to “I am enough” which is great for a starting meditation.

-Become the watcher: Start observing your thoughts and feelings in every interaction. Even if it’s just for a few minutes a day, you can start to see what things cause distress or what is working for you. The key for this meditation is observe and not judge. Watching without judgement even is difficult for me and it takes practice just like anything. Once you start getting use to observing, you’ll start seeing a shift in awareness.

Meditation has done wonders for emotional and physical health for not only myself but thousands of generations. For me, it has allowed me to gain a better sense of myself and able to work through what life deals me if it’s difficult. Hopefully these meditation techniques find a way into your daily life. Even for just a brief moment, each person deserves a purposeful and happy life!

 

Namaste!

 

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Yoga: For the Mind, Body & Soul

Yoga has been on an upward trend with more Americans practicing today than ever before. A new study by Yoga Alliance has shown that “Approximately 37 million Americans practice yoga today – up significantly from 20 million in 2012.”

Originating in India over 5000 years ago, the tradition has become a worldwide practice gaining more popularly more so now than ever.

Yoga is intended to strengthen not just your physical body but your mind as well. Benefits include many such as: balance, increased flexibility, protection against injury. As well as higher self confidence, reduced anxiety, depression and mental clarity.

This may seem like an amazing deal for a workout. However, some aren’t too keen in starting their yoga practice. Why? Well some feel as though the yoga community is for those who are already flexible, spiritual or in good physical shape.

Yoga is made for everyone!  “Whether you’re a couch potato or a professional athlete, size and fitness levels do not matter because there are modifications for every yoga pose and beginner classes in every style,” says Dr. Nevins. “The idea is to explore your limits, not strive for some pretzel-like perfection. It is a great way to get in tune with your body and your inner self.”​

There are plenty yogi’s around the valley who wants to help you get in touch with your inner self.

Some of my favorites:

Salt Lake Power Yoga

Scholé Yoga-SLC

Core Power Yoga

 

6 Ways You Can Tackle Monday

Monday: that six letter word we all dread. After spending two days in the leisure of your own home, on your own schedule — Monday is a pretty daunting day to get back to that daily routine. However, this is one day we can’t dodge so we may as well tackle Monday with a strong cup of coffee and a smile. Here are 6 ways you can tackle Monday head on.

1.Wake up early: Yes, that’s almost just as bad as Monday. Especially for the more snoozy types who enjoy mornings in bed like myself. Allowing yourself to wake up earlier, allows you to prepare for the day in a positive manner instead of rushing into your day.

2. Wear a fun outfit: Now I know, work makes you keep it professional, doesn’t mean you can’t add a little flare to your daily attire to keep things interesting. Wear your favorite colorful top or find that perfect dress to rock on those mundane Mondays.

3.Eat a good breakfast: Doesn’t even have to be healthy! If you want a donut on a Monday, have a donut on a Monday!

4. Change up your music choice: There are so many great musical options out there, try switching up your daily commute radio to something different. Whether that be a new radio station or a new playlist — you’ll be surprised at how much awesome music is out there that might inspire you to have a great day! Podcasts are great too for that Monday morning motivation!

5. Meet up with a loved one: Whether you can meet for lunch or go to a movie with your family, do something out of the ordinary so you can look forward to your day.

6. Plan ahead: Instead of rushing out on Friday, to come back to a load of work Monday. Organize your week so you aren’t stressed going in to work Monday morning. This will allow your work flow to go more effortlessly than trying to coordinate all your meetings all at once which in return leads to stress and needed “me time“.

These are just a few things that can put a little pep in your step when it comes to Monday Blues. Consider your Monday “my day” and allow yourself to set goals for yourself for the week! You can do this!

 

Have a great week!

Why “Me Time” is so Important in the Life of a Woman

We’ve all been there at some point – where you barely have time to breathe. Whether you are a stay at home mom with kids, or you’re a woman in the workforce, life is busy and it doesn’t slow down for anybody. Sure, it would be nice to just go hide from all the responsibilities that come at you each day. Take that vacation that you mark on your calendar each year but somehow passes you by, or even just get away from the house to have a glass of wine with a pedicure. The difficulty with doing those things being a busy woman, is you won’t relax until you get your check-list completely marked off.

 

According to Statistic Brain, 48% of studies have reported that stress has a negative impact on their personal and professional life and $300 Billion in annual costs to employers in stress related health care and missed work. Even if you have a moment to yourself, it can decrease stress by taking simple steps that will allow you to have a more fulfilling day.

 

Wake Up Early: Waking up a little earlier allows for some quality time to enjoy your own company. I personally have never been a morning person, but since I’ve been getting up earlier; even if it’s only 30 minutes on some days it allows me to take time to myself before I start my day. I usually wake up at sunrise, do a quick meditation or yoga session and make me a healthy breakfast. Not only does it start the day off on a positive note, it allows you to slow down instead of rushing into your day.

 

Journaling: I’ve always been an avid user of a journal, it allows me to declutter my brain. Everything from lists, to what’s on my mind in that exact moment. Dealing with the monkey mind, it can be difficult to shut your brain off for a second. Combining this with a daily meditation, you can reduce stress, clarify your thoughts as well as get to know yourself better!

 

Exercise: This one is even a tough one for myself, I would much rather be eating my feelings than trying to be healthy about them. Let’s be honest though, exercise is the one thing all doctors agree on when it comes to health. The great thing about exercise though is it doesn’t have to be a vigorous work-out. Going on a walk for 20 minutes out of your day can eliminate stress, allows you to have a moment to yourself, or allows you some time with a loved one.

These are just a few things I’ve incorporated in my daily routine to allow me to have some clarity. Being a college student, working almost full time – I have been exposed to so much stress. My quality of life has become increasingly better due to taking “me time”. The great thing about this is, just remembering to do what you enjoy. You’re limitless when you’re happy!